Tribe’s gay marriage law faces challenge

By Jessica Musicar, Staff Writer
Tuesday, October 21, 2008 | 39 comment(s)

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A Coquille Indian Tribe member is challenging a recent decision by the Tribal Council to allow domestic partnerships and marriages regardless of sexual orientation.

Brady Metcalf, who lives in Pahoa, Hawaii, said he believes the Marriage and Domestic Partnership Ordinance should be placed on a special tribal ballot, allowing the general council to weigh in on the topic. The general council includes every adult tribal member, of which there are about 580.

“I think it’s too big of an issue to be decided upon by six people who may or may not have their own agenda,” Metcalf said Monday.

He said he’s been circulating a petition to get it on a special ballot, but he emphasized that he isn’t opposed to gay marriage. The 46-year-old simply believes the entire tribe should put it to a vote.

“My personal opinion. I think that if gay people want to get married, they should get married. And if it doesn’t work out, they should have custody battles, and divide property just like anyone else,” Metcalf said. “(But) they’re making rules that are binding on everyone that are going to benefit two people.”

According to Tribal Attorney Brett Kenney and the May edition of tribe’s newsletter “Coquille Tribal Tidbits,” the new tribal law does two things. It recognizes marriages and domestic partnerships formed in other jurisdictions, such as tribes, states, countries and provinces, for the purposes of extending tribal spousal or domestic partner benefits.

Secondly, the law authorizes new marriages under tribal law between both homosexual and heterosexual couples, when at least one person is a tribal member. However, these marriages can’t be initiated until the Tribal Council adopts follow-up laws addressing divorce and child custody. Kenney said it will take at least another four to five months for these potential laws to be reviewed.

“That law has been passed ... but those marriages will not begin until we can deal with the break up of those marriages under our legal system,” Kenney said.

He added that both portions of the ordinance recognize marriages and domestic partnerships regardless of the gender of the two people involved. However, there are some restrictions, such as the two parties can’t be first cousins or any closer kin or under the age of 18.

The first couple expected to take advantage of the new ordinance is Jeni and Kitzen Branting. They are planning a May wedding at the tribe’s plankhouse. Attempts to reach Kitzen Branting were unsuccesful.

Kenney said the Tribal Council adopted the ordinance on May 8, following more than six meetings and workshops and about a year after tribal members raised the question of the tribe honoring same-sex relationships involving tribal members. The ordinance passed in a 4-2 vote. Kenney would not reveal the council members opposed to the proposition. He added that the council accepted written and verbal testimony from the general council through a 90-day comment period, starting Feb. 7. Notices regarding the potential ordinances were posted at locations on tribal property including the clinic, housing authority and tribal headquarters, Kenney said. A notice also appeared in the tribal newsletter.

Regarding a petition, Kenney said no Tribal Council members have expressed concerns.

“The only comments I’ve heard is that the tribe welcomes tribal member involvement in the legislative process and that they have no desire to interfere with and expressed no angst over this petition,” Kenney said.

However, if Metcalf is able to collect one-third or more signatures — about 200 — from the tribe’s general council members, a special election could become a reality. The signatures would be presented to the tribe’s election board, Kenney said, but there is no deadline to do so.

“If that happens, then there is an election,” the tribal attorney said.

Metcalf said he’s been circulating petitions via tribal members in the Coos Bay area and within the tribe’s five county service area. He also sent about 600 petitions on the back of candidacy letters he mailed while running for vice chairman. The co-owner of an auto parts store lost the race last week to incumbent Thomas Younker, he said, by 39 votes. Metcalf also serves on the tribe’s fish and wildlife committee.

So far, he’s received more than 60 signatures, he said. Metcalf noted that his issues with the ordinance are over the wording, that the tribe would have to keep records of marriage licenses and certificates, and that the ordinance goes against Oregon and federal law.

“It seems like something we don’t need to get involved in,” Metcalf said. “I don’t know why we want to go into the marriage business. I don’t understand that at all.”
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Tribal Person wrote on Oct 30, 2008 1:47 PM:

In my opinion, yes, I believe that the tribe should be allowed to vote on issues such as this as a whole. Mr. Metcalf is correct of that, however the vehicle he chose to use to gain the opportunity to voice his opinion and to allow this to be brought into focus is entirely wrong. He has misused the election process to gain propaganda for his platform. My opinion is that his intentions are a misrepresentation of the process and he should be held accountable for his actions.

Not a second-class citizen wrote on Oct 29, 2008 12:58 AM:

Linda and those who identify with her comments: The only problem I see with “our kids” sexuality is their having to emotionally deal with hate-filled talk that comes from comments like yours. What kind of message are we sending to kids when we say things like “I don't care what you do as long as I don't have to see it.” Growing up queer in Coos County is hard enough as it is. That kind of commentary is just another way of sweeping it under the rug so that the homophobia can flourish. Not only making sure that kids don’t grow up thinking that words like “f-g” and “that’s gay” are acceptable, but teaching them to embrace what makes us different rather than run away from it is absolutely needed right now. When kids like Lawrence King in California are murdered, MURDERED for being “different”, I’m sorry, but that is evidence that your “don’t ask don’t tell”, “as long as I don’t have to see it” sort of speech isn’t working.

Please everybody take a moment to view this powerful message:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcMEL3_YsVI

Me wrote on Oct 28, 2008 2:48 PM:

It was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve or Sandra and Eve. How can you call yourself a Christian when you act like that? It is not crossed wires, a recessive gene or any type of malfunction other than your icky sense of "it's okay." I have an aunt who has a life partner, I love them both and accept them for who they are. That does not mean that it is okay to act in such a repulsive manner. If I fell inlove with an animal that should be okay too..........right!

cloetus wrote on Oct 28, 2008 2:43 PM:

Heeyuk, guess my puritan ways are showing. Fact is, laws that affect a society should be placed by the majority, in the society, as a whole. Whether for or against any topic, why should any one be subjected to the beleifs of a few individuals as opposed to the beleifs of the many. Why should our money be given away to private financial institutions without the consent of those in which it actually belongs to? Same same. Rambling over, but still, why should 6 people make the decision that affects the outward appearance or definition of a whole soceity? I would like to think that if that were to happen, I would be asked if I would like to be viewed that way. Fact is, not everybody does. just because notice of posting wsa given does not mean that I had a chance to see it or give my opinion....Where is that petition.

LaVonn Chase Riddle wrote on Oct 27, 2008 7:20 PM:

That was quit interesting?? I have send in 3 separate comments. You never printed any of them. So I inquire as to why you hadn't. Then you print the inquire as a comment. Not only was that embarrassing for me. It should be for you. I mean somebody is smoking something or there is a moron working for the world. Well, there ya go maybe a job opening?? (Moderator's note: Sorry, but we can't find any record of receiving those three previous comments. Sometimes the Internet plays tricks. Please feel free to resubmit you comments.)

LaVonn CHASE wrote on Oct 27, 2008 8:58 AM:

Whats up? I have submited 3 Different comments. besides this the one the one on the Mill layoffs???

I support gay marriage. wrote on Oct 24, 2008 12:16 PM:

I'm a 28 year old guy that is straight as all hell and I grew up in NB...
And I want to know..

Why don't these people just get out of other peoples bedrooms and leave them be? Let them be happy.. or let them be married and miserable.. Last time I checked any gay friend I had was about a billion times more monogamous and morally strong than most straight families were..

It's 2008 let's stop trying to turn the way back machine to the good old days.. You Dinosaurs that don't wan't black men running the white house or gay people marrying each other are a dying breed..

tribal member again wrote on Oct 24, 2008 12:03 PM:

I fogot, cause i'm not as educated as our Tribal council. Was wondering??? Who is on the election board?? Are they voted on? Who picks them out? was that on a opinion poll? Did I miss the ballot for voting? Do they count the votes? How are they related to the people running? Are they the same ones every election? JUST CURIOUS

Cora wrote on Oct 23, 2008 4:19 PM:

To- go back to School, I think you went to college to long. Did you understand what you said? There is something to say about street smarts. They're easy to understand.

tribal member wrote on Oct 23, 2008 1:41 PM:

IT,S ANOTHER ONE OF THOSE," IT'S NOT WHO YOU KNOW IT'S WHO YOU ----??????" WHEN THE TRIBE WILL PAY FOR TRIBAL MEMBERS CHILDRENS COATS FOR WINTER, BUT HAVE TO GET AN O.K. FROM TRIBAL COUNCIL, FOR STEP CHILDREN TO RECEIVE ONE. I'VE BEEN TRYING TO FIGURE OUT FOR OVER FIFTY YEARS JUST WHAT THE BIG PICTURE IS. THE TRIBE HAS MANY PROBLEMS BUT THE COUNCIL PERFERS TO CREATE MORE AND MORE PROBLEMS, BFORE SOLVING THE LITTLE PICTURE FIRST. TRIBAL COUNCIL IS ONE BIG POLITICAL FARCE. ITS BASCICALLY WHO HAS THE MOST RELATIVES THAT ARE VOTING AGE WHO KEEPS GETTING THE VOTE YEAR AFTER YEAR. I CAN'T EVEN GUESS WHO THE GAY COUPLE IS RELATED ON THE COUNCIL????? GEE LET'S SEE!!! DO YOU THINK THIS SUBJECT WOULD HAVE EVEN CAME UP? iF THAT WASN'T A FACT. THE TRIBAL MEMBERS ARE ONLY ASK TO VOTE TRIBAL COUNCILS ELECTIONS. OCASSIONALLY,WERE SENT OUT OPINION POLLS. IT'S TO BAD BRADY NOT EVERYONE MAY AGREE WITH YOU BUT"KUDOS" FOR HAVING THE GUTS TO SPEAK UP. DON'T GIVE UP BRADY, THE YOUNGER GENERATION OF FREE THINKING ADULTS ARE ON THE HORIZON. THEY ARE READY FOR CHANGE, AS WELL AS SOME OF US OLDIES.

go back to school wrote on Oct 23, 2008 8:30 AM:

time to go back to school if that is what you got out of that - talk about selective reading. wikipedia isn't meant to be a definitive source, but a good summary of a topic. by providing that link, I hoped to inform those speaking out of turn about this issue of the LONG-TERM history of native americans and acceptance of various gender identities and sexual orientations. as wikipedia is not a definitive source, I encourage you to use 'the google' and find others. in the meantime, take note the information in the link (or its sources) may have been written in recent history or terms may be reflective of modern names, but the native american respect for people dates back centuries upon centuries, long before the puritans came to America and borrowed the land and "christianized" them. This includes gays and lesbians. did anyone go to college that writes on these boards?

Yeah I Read wrote on Oct 22, 2008 5:02 PM:

I read that almost all the reference material for your "two-spirit" was printed in the last two decades and the name came into being in 1990 at the first nations gay/lesbian conference in Wiinipeg, Canada, eh?. I'm no expert, but it sounds like this is all pretty recent history.

Mary wrote on Oct 22, 2008 1:25 PM:

Its wrong. I am native also and this was not the way our creator designed us to function, if it was, he would have just made man and man, and then there wouldn't be more to discuss, because none of us would be here! I don't need a history lesson to know what is right from wrong, regardless of the past. Past or present- still wrong! the natives are Gods Warriors who will fight in the spirit, most know that there is a spirit realm, god put it in us to look into this realm. sounds like this tribe has lost it's purpose, and is following in the way of the rest of the world. Must have lost their vision, to bad, your children will be paying the price..

........ wrote on Oct 22, 2008 12:51 PM:

To Patrick P...The people of Oregon have voted this issue down in the past. It is our holier then though governor that is trying to override the PEOPLE's vote just as tribal council did by not giving tribal members a say in the matter. Bring it to a vote and if (when) it passes, more power to you.

OffRez wrote on Oct 22, 2008 12:47 PM:

Okay Reader
I looked at your wikipedia. It says that some tribes feared or revered "Two-Spirits". Some tribes held them in low esteem, some were killed on belief of "bad medicine" and failed crops.
....kinda sounds like modern times, huh?

OffRez wrote on Oct 22, 2008 12:13 PM:

For Patric P
I don't want to embrace your values anymore than you want to embrace mine. NEWSFLASH marriage never was about having babies,never was. You say I'm ignorant and need to wake up. I say if you found someone to share your love with, keep it between you two.Bigger towns burn their own cars and loot their own neighborhoods when they win at sports. We don't need to join in that parade anymore than we need to join your gay parade. You say I'm ignorant, I say you're arrogant.Go whatever direction you like. Just don't expect me to follow blindly into your pink sunset.

OffRez wrote on Oct 22, 2008 11:41 AM:

This is a very divisive issue FOR THE TRIBE. The Council implements rules on EVERYONE to placate a vocal minority, then defy anyone to have a different opinion. This should have been put to a tribal vote.

does anyone read wrote on Oct 22, 2008 9:58 AM:

before you state what is not true about this subject, view this website and learn the real history of native americans and same sex relationships: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two-Spirit .

I don't want to discriminate or anything, but I'm getting so tired of ignorant, uneducated, and puritanical know-it-alls. take the time to research an issue before you act like an expert on the subject. this includes you, "grandfather".

Patric P. wrote on Oct 22, 2008 8:42 AM:

Here is it boys and girls. You might want to start to embrace or learn how to deal with it now. Because the gay community in other parts of the Oregon are not going to stop until we get equal rights. Marriage is no longer about having babies that changed in the 1970s and 1980s, it is now about love. And wow that is just something mind blowing, wanting to share your life with someone you love. I live in the North Bend/Coos Bay area for 14 years of my life. I worked and went to high school there and all the people of that town do is repress anything that they dont see as normal. You cause so many people living in that area pain and hurt because you are being ignorant. So, it is time to wake and see that we are moving in that direction as a state and sorry to say it but there are bigger towns then yours that are voting for it. And when it passes I hope that you are reminded every day about the pain and hurt that you have caused your own citizen.

CBNative wrote on Oct 22, 2008 8:42 AM:

Here we go again!! This is a issue for the Tribe to resolve. And I agree with Mr Metcalf that an issue this big should have been resolved by the whole Tribe and not just a few.especially when the parties involved had family members on the council.If you are a Tribal member sign the petition and lets vote on this and get done with it once and for all.

Linda wrote on Oct 22, 2008 8:28 AM:

Oh thank you Grandfather, oh wise one.

Grandfather wrote on Oct 22, 2008 6:09 AM:

I say it is "unnatural" for same sex marriages.

There was no word for "wilderness" in Indian language it was all nature.

I'm sure the natives did not condone same sex anything 150 years ago.

kat wrote on Oct 22, 2008 1:39 AM:

Very well said Mr. E.

To Linda: i have to disagree with your opinion. What about couples that are physically unable to conceive? Under your theory there's no reason for those couples to marry. I myself am capable of having children but choose not to. Does that also mean I shouldn't be married?

Long ago it was decided in our constitution that all men are created equal. By saying same sex marriages shouldn't be allowed goes against that and shouldn't be a matter for the people to vote on but a protected right. I applaud the tribe for taking the lead and doing the right thing.

In the future I believe people will look back on us and realize how wrong it is for us to try and prevent these marriages, the same way we look back and see how women and african americans were treated and are appalled by our ancestors.

Hannah wrote on Oct 21, 2008 9:55 PM:

People who have a problem with this are honestly ignorant and need to wake up and realize that we live in 2008 and not 1950's. I think a union between two people of the same sex is a wonderful thing. And as far as "corrupting the minds of our children" well that's just silly. Gay people are not monsters they are peole like any one else.

Danny wrote on Oct 21, 2008 7:35 PM:

Cora, your tribal ancestors would ...

oh, read the link that I posted (wiki site)... obviously you haven't and are unaware of native american history.

no way wrote on Oct 21, 2008 6:06 PM:

Linda- im glad you dont want to see it, I wasnt going to invite you!!! could the problem bee that you are NOT happy?? therefor neither should I??

Linda wrote on Oct 21, 2008 4:06 PM:

To Mr E. now I am really afraid. Please say it isn't so.

Cora wrote on Oct 21, 2008 4:05 PM:

What do you people really think our tribal ancestors would think? Being we always seem to go back to them and what everybody supposedly owes them. What's in the spirits?

Tribal Menber wrote on Oct 21, 2008 3:53 PM:

The decision the council made should have been on a ballot for all other tribal members to vote on as well. Same sex marriges should be allowd in our tribe is my thought. "To each their own". If someone of the same sex makes you happy, you shouldn't be stopped of being married to that person.

Mr E wrote on Oct 21, 2008 3:16 PM:

Also, Linda... in a sense, it WAS Adam and Adam.

Mr E wrote on Oct 21, 2008 3:13 PM:

The reason this nation (and, really, political processes in many tribes) is not a true democracy is so that tyranny of the majority will not take place.

Recently, many states have voted to ban gay marriage (and legal protections that come with "legal marriage")... but expect, someday, for those laws to be struck down, as they basically create a different set of rights for certain Americans. Gay "civil unions" still don't allow for the same rights as married couples receive, under certain circumstances.

Sadly, too many Americans hide behind their religion as a guise to support bigotry. Sadly, people cannot disassociate their religion from the legal rights of others. Sadly, they don't realize marriage in the eyes of the law is not necessarily marriage in the eyes of whatever God you worship.

Linda wrote on Oct 21, 2008 3:07 PM:

To let it go- Sorry, I gave my opinion. I forgot, only yours matters. And who said I was happy. This is exactly how stories get blown out of proportion, people add comments people didn't even say.

pril wrote on Oct 21, 2008 3:02 PM:

Are you peeping into people's rooms, Linda? If not, then how are you "seeing it"?

LET IT GO... wrote on Oct 21, 2008 2:23 PM:

TO LINDA... WHO SAID THEY WERE "CONCIEVING" ANYTHING, THEY ARE JUST BEING HAPPY, JUST LIKE YOU... YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH A MAN, NOT A WOMAN, DONT TELL OTHERS HOW TO LIVE THEIR LIFE.

LET IT GO... wrote on Oct 21, 2008 2:21 PM:

Matthew 7:1-3
1Do not judge,or you too will be judged.
2For in the same way you judge others,you will be judged,and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye
and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
IT ALSO STATES IN THE BIBLE, NOT TO EAT PORK, LIE, STEAL, CHEAT, HAVE SEX, DIVORCE, BUT THE WHOLE WORLD IS DOING IT, SO WHAT MAKES IT ANY DIFFERENT IF 2 PEOPLE WANT TO BE HAPPY? LET THEM BE ITS NOT YOUR PLACE TO JUDGE OR DECIDE LET THEM LIVE THEIR LIFE. YOU CANT TELL ME YOU NEVER DID ANYTHING, THAT YOU SHOULDNT BE DOING? NO ONE IS PERFECT, I KNOW BY FAR I AM NOT, AND I AM NOT GAY OR LESBIAN, BUT IM NOT AGAINST SAME SEX MARRIAGE, AS EVERYONE HAS RIGHTS, AND IF YOU DONT LIKE THE FREE RIGHTS, THEN MOVE OUT OF THE U.S., BECUZ THIS IS A FREE COUNTRY, AND GOD GAVE US THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE TO LIVE OUR LIFE AS WE PLEASE, WHETHER IT BE RIGHT OR WRONG, ITS OURS, YOURS AND THEIR RIGHT.

Danny wrote on Oct 21, 2008 1:24 PM:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two-Spirit

Linda wrote on Oct 21, 2008 12:40 PM:

To Noway- When "someone" decided it took a man and a woman to concieve. Comprenday, example-Adam and Eve not Adam and Adam. Come on our kids have enough problems with their sexuality. I don't care what you do as long as I don't have to see it.

no way wrote on Oct 21, 2008 12:11 PM:

why does everybody else get to decide if its ok for me to marry? i didnt get to decide when you got married!!! What is really the issue?? afraid we may lead happier longer marriages? get a life and leave mine alone!!!!

TRIBAL MEMBER wrote on Oct 21, 2008 12:09 PM:

I agree it should be put on a ballot and be voted for. I dont think same sex marriages should be allowed in our tribe.


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